No one likes to lose. Whether it's the Super Bowl, the Academy Awards, or 7th grade Math competitions, we play to win. The only problem with that model is for someone to win, another has to lose.
Rather than Win/Lose, how about Win/Win for everyone? As writer and cancer survivor Greg Anderson explained in his book The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness (1996): "The Law of Win/Win says, 'Let's not do it your way or my way; let's do it the best way.'"
Win/win celebrates the spirit of cooperation and finds what is mutually beneficial in all relationships. "For Win/Win to work," observed Anderson, "it must be founded on strong personal character... Trust is the essence of Win/Win."
From trust, open communication and synergy flourish. Win/Win is the key to all successful relationships.
"A vibrant marriage is impossible without Win/Win as its centerpiece," said Anderson. "Parenting is a nightmare without deep unconditional love and respect coupled with a Win/Win attitude. Friendships, school and community activities, philanthropy--all live or die around the Law of Win/Win."
With Win/Win, there is no blame, just compromise and teamwork. There's better listening, more generosity. And EVERYONE takes home a trophy. Or at least shares the same one.
Go for the win-win situation.